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You too are IMPORTANT!! *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Positive Parenting tips: 6 steps to calm an aggressive child

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How do you treat me? *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Try this! *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Kids are not bad!! Small steps towards Positive Parenting

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Why Kids don't listen? Reason#3: Weak Bonding (in English)

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Why Kids don't listen? Reason#3: Weak Bonding (in Hindi)

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Kids' Good Behavior!!

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Embrace the LOVE!!

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What kind of a burden is it? *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Positive Parenting: Why not to yell?

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The Power of Conversation!! *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Why are you condemning me? *Small Steps towards Positive Parenting*

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Drop OFF that dress!!

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Look from own eyes...not society's!!

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Come... I'll show you!!

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I Believe!! Do You?

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Why Kids don't listen? Reason#2: Transition Time (in English)

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Why Kids don't listen? Reason#2: Transition Time (in Hindi)

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Inspirational quotes on Parenting!!

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Don't judge my kid!!

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Positive parenting tips to reduce hitting and yelling

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Good Memories!!

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I can become better tomorrow!!

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Pillars of Positive Parenting!!

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Love accepts imperfections!!

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No more tears!!

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Kids need "Encourages" to thrive!!

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Our Energy

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Why Kids don't listen? Reason 1:Our tone of voice (English)

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Hi!!
All parents struggle because their kids don't listen to them.
This video is 1st in the series "Why kids don't listen?"
In the whole series I'll discuss different reasons why kids don't listen and the possible solutions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KRxsNRHo0g

Why Kids don't listen? Reason 1:Our tone of voice (Hindi)

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Hi!!
All parents struggle because their kids don't listen to them.
This video is 1st in the series "Why kids don't listen?"
In the whole series I'll discuss different reasons why kids don't listen and the possible solutions.


https://youtu.be/hrVDpuvFr_8

Kids are like us

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Learn something new!!

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Which language are we using?

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Dilemma

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Little Hearts❤❤

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Confidence and Comfort in Parenting

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How do you get abundance of happiness?

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Shaming doesn't work🙌

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A new way of looking at parenting

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I've often been faced with the question "Why is there a need to change the way the kids are raised? We've been raising kids like this for years; so why do you feel there's something wrong in this way?"

My reply has been "I don't feel good about raising a small human being by scolding, hitting or doing anything to hurt him emotionally and physically."

My reply appears strange to those people because they consider it to be a vital part of teaching kids the right behaviour, which in turn is important for their overall success in life.

So why do I feel so different?  Why do I feel this is inhuman, which in fact is very normal for everyone else out there?

These questions brought me to the journey of discovering my own self. I've slowly started to realize I'm a highly sensitive person. I kind-a knew it from inside for several years, but it never came out because I was always told it's wrong to feel so much; for the obvious reason that it hurt…

'Be' before you 'teach'🙏

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I love you, my kid💕

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In Nature

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Keep trying

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Our labels

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Be an encourager👏👏

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OLD vs. NEW

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This blog is not intended to criticize any form of medicine, and the comparison is being made for the sole purpose of comparing two different styles of parenting.

Positive Parenting methods are like Ayurveda. The purpose is to cure the body, so that the existing ailment doesn't recur. These methods aim to know the reason behind kids' misbehaviour, tantrums, not listening, back talks. Once the reason is known, which is the root cause of all misbehaviour; the reason is taken care of in such way that its recurrence is reduced the next time. These and similar techniques are used:

Effective communication: make the kids understand why You're saying NO.Mutual understanding and respect: kids are receptive when we talk with them with respect, that we expect from them.Facing consequences: The kid is left to bear the consequences, if he doesn't listen to his parents. That learning makes him understand the reason why his parents said NO at the first place (Of course this technique c…

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How is positive parenting going to help me in my daily struggles of repeating, scolding, bribing, punishing  my kids?
Is this an illusion that there are methods better and more effective than scolding and punishing, which will help me as a parent?
How can I remain calm whilst managing huge piles of house and office work?
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My Kid!

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Pause gives us choices!!

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10 seconds of pause gives me a huge opportunity to look into the reason of misbehavior, and not just reacting angrily at that particular moment.

Pause gives me choices how to behave in response to my child's behavior; to look gently into her eyes, get her into my lap, hug her to make her calm, and listen to what really instigated that misbehaviour.

Dear Parents!  Please pause before you react angrily to your child's misbehaviour. They need guidance for the next time; instead of threatening.

True Love brings Real Happiness

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I'm sure many of us appear to be very strict in front of our kids. Even though all of us are struggling with day to day issues which leave us stressed and fatigued; still when we're happy inside due to some reason, we still portray to be strict in front of our kids.

I don't know from where we've got this fear that if we'll show our kids that we're happy and joyful, they'll run over us and put unnecessary demands or show undesirable behavior.

On the contrary, I've observed that when my mood is good and I'm happy because of some reason, my kid finds her friend in me. She becomes so cooperative and understanding as I find her to be occasionally. The reason is that I too become more receptive of her reasonable demands; and understand the reason behind her behavior.

'Positive Parenting starts with me.'
- Rebecca Eanes.

I've to start the habit of being happy. There's someone who always loves me and wants to be with me, no matter how many ti…

Cost of Perfection

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Whenever I find myself and my kid struggling with the perfection in her homework (that the world expects), I always have one question in mind:
It is important to teach her right; but how important it is to put unnecessary pressure on her to be absolutely perfect?
It is my experience that perfection comes with lots of pressure.
It is important to try striking a balance between the 'work to be done' and the 'pressure to be taken'.

Who's your Life Skills Trainer😀😀

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For parents of daughters

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Recently, an article ‘Advice for living’ was published in The New York Times by U.S. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, for advice to parents of daughters who want them to mature into confident, fierce, high-achieving women.
Here is an excerpt: Foster a love of reading - No matter what you hope for your child, or what she hopes for herself, there's no better thing you can impart than a love of reading. It's truly a passport to explore the world, barely discriminates between rich and poor, and can expand and train her mind. It's important enough that it's the first thing Ginsburg mentions in her article, and she credits her mother, who "by her example, made reading a delight." Teach them to be independent - Society pulls people in so many different directions, trying to shape us into roles that we might not really want for ourselves. Ginsburg credits her mother for fostering this streak in her. It was her mother, she writes, who "counseled me constan…

Discipline misunderstood

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Hitting

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She has to listen to me!!

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She has to listen to me
I'll not be in a hurry I'll ask her why she's not listening to me. I'll talk to her and find out what she wants. I'll give her what she wants, if it's a ‘Smally’. If I disagree, I'll still be gentle, wait for her to be calm, and explain her the reason. I'm with her to help develop her brain for becoming calm and solving problems thereafter. I too am learning that though she's small; still she deserves respectful discussion.

A Big ❤

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Our Physical Health💞

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Setting an example of a parent who is brave enough to grow

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Where am I going wrong as a parent?

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I knew this morning is going to be a tough one. After 4 long holidays, it was difficult for me to get my kid ready for school today. I was on the run, from one task to another.

'Joy' which at a certain point of time was my morning goal; was absent today. 

My kid was as usual sleepy in the morning, and I continuously tried to cheer her up. But she didn't want to sit to eat her breakfast. At last, I blew up on her. She cried. Then I said sorry to her, but at the back of my mind I was still furious on her laziness. Somehow I managed to send her to school with a kiss and a hug.

I came back home, sat down defeated and asked myself

"Where am I going wrong as a parent?"

This question was a big puzzle for me few months back. But today, I instantly got reply from inside:
"I've stopped reading about positive parenting, and so my old neural connections (thought patterns) have become strong again. Those connections ask me to scold and punish my kid to achieve compliance. …

Disagree gently👪

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Your kids might amaze you🙌🙌

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What do kids need during their aggression?

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No matter how much we scream or hit our kids for their misbehaviour, back talks, hitting, throwing things, biting; it is not going to stop.
Because we're trying to solve these issues in a wrong manner.

The need is to first address the reason of misbehaviour.

Yelling and hitting is just suppressing their misbehaviour at that moment, which will re-arise.
Because the underlying need is still unmet.

Remain in close proximity of your kids whilst their aggression, let them vent out and then cool down.

Now is your time to take control of the situation. Offer love. And then talk. Know the reason. And help them solve with your wisdom, so that the intensity of this aggression is lessened the next time it emanates.

All answers are within us🎆

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Everyone is busy collecting loads of information on internet about kids' sleep training,how to reduce yelling, calm down techniques, and so on.
But what we forget is that each child and parent is a unique individual. And one solution doesn't fits to all.
Let us sit down for a while everyday to find out calm solutions for our challenges.

Believe me, those are much more effective than the techniques available on internet.

Take ownership!!

Tomorrow is still there with us

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Wrong dogma around Positive Parenting

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