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OLD vs. NEW

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This blog is not intended to criticize any form of medicine, and the comparison is being made for the sole purpose of comparing two different styles of parenting.

Positive Parenting methods are like Ayurveda. The purpose is to cure the body, so that the existing ailment doesn't recur. These methods aim to know the reason behind kids' misbehaviour, tantrums, not listening, back talks. Once the reason is known, which is the root cause of all misbehaviour; the reason is taken care of in such way that its recurrence is reduced the next time. These and similar techniques are used:

Effective communication: make the kids understand why You're saying NO.Mutual understanding and respect: kids are receptive when we talk with them with respect, that we expect from them.Facing consequences: The kid is left to bear the consequences, if he doesn't listen to his parents. That learning makes him understand the reason why his parents said NO at the first place (Of course this technique c…

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My Kid!

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Pause gives us choices!!

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10 seconds of pause gives me a huge opportunity to look into the reason of misbehavior, and not just reacting angrily at that particular moment.

Pause gives me choices how to behave in response to my child's behavior; to look gently into her eyes, get her into my lap, hug her to make her calm, and listen to what really instigated that misbehaviour.

Dear Parents!  Please pause before you react angrily to your child's misbehaviour. They need guidance for the next time; instead of threatening.

True Love brings Real Happiness

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I'm sure many of us appear to be very strict in front of our kids. Even though all of us are struggling with day to day issues which leave us stressed and fatigued; still when we're happy inside due to some reason, we still portray to be strict in front of our kids.

I don't know from where we've got this fear that if we'll show our kids that we're happy and joyful, they'll run over us and put unnecessary demands or show undesirable behavior.

On the contrary, I've observed that when my mood is good and I'm happy because of some reason, my kid finds her friend in me. She becomes so cooperative and understanding as I find her to be occasionally. The reason is that I too become more receptive of her reasonable demands; and understand the reason behind her behavior.

'Positive Parenting starts with me.'
- Rebecca Eanes.

I've to start the habit of being happy. There's someone who always loves me and wants to be with me, no matter how many ti…

Cost of Perfection

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Whenever I find myself and my kid struggling with the perfection in her homework (that the world expects), I always have one question in mind:
It is important to teach her right; but how important it is to put unnecessary pressure on her to be absolutely perfect?
It is my experience that perfection comes with lots of pressure.
It is important to try striking a balance between the 'work to be done' and the 'pressure to be taken'.

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For parents of daughters

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Recently, an article ‘Advice for living’ was published in The New York Times by U.S. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, for advice to parents of daughters who want them to mature into confident, fierce, high-achieving women.
Here is an excerpt: Foster a love of reading - No matter what you hope for your child, or what she hopes for herself, there's no better thing you can impart than a love of reading. It's truly a passport to explore the world, barely discriminates between rich and poor, and can expand and train her mind. It's important enough that it's the first thing Ginsburg mentions in her article, and she credits her mother, who "by her example, made reading a delight." Teach them to be independent - Society pulls people in so many different directions, trying to shape us into roles that we might not really want for ourselves. Ginsburg credits her mother for fostering this streak in her. It was her mother, she writes, who "counseled me constan…