Be a gentle parent
For all of us to become positive parents, the first step is to accept the fact that there is a better way to raise our kids than the way we were raised. I am not saying our parents were wrong, they didn't know a better way.
They just followed what their elders told them. They were doing their best.
But today we have so much research in front of us that states that raising kids through scolding and hitting is harmful for their self confidence.